What is parenting philosophy

Introduction to the Next 4 Parenting Styles! Diana Baumrind's Parenting Styles The next types of parenting styles are not modern parenting 'movements' or philosophies in the same way that positive parenting, attachment parenting, unconditional parenting, spiritual parenting and slow parenting are.

The types of parenting styles below are a result of developmental psychologist Diana Baumrind's s study of the dominant white middle class types of parenting styles. These parenting styles thus represent a picture of typical and widespread ways of parenting rather than recommended or consciously chosen ways of parenting.

I will present these different types of parenting styles very briefly as I have written extensively about Baumrind's 3 parenting styles elsewhere on this site. According to Diana Baumrind's studies, and many parenting studies made since then, authoritative parenting is the parenting style that has been most consistent terms of being associated with positive outcomes for children: high level of self esteem, good academic performance, well-developed social skills, good emotional control etc.

As a parenting style, authoritative parenting is characterized by high behavior control demandingness and high parental responsiveness warmth. Typical traits of authoritative parenting are: A child discipline strategy that includes demands for children such as assigning house chores!

Children are basically expected to as they are told. Thus they are raised in a spirit of disciplined conformity, general obedience and sticking to the rules! Authoritative parents have a relatively flexible mind where they make use of what may be termed rational control: There are rules but they have to make logical sense!

Relative freedom of choice. This parenting style encourages independent thinking and give and take discussions. However, the parents will typically always have the last say! Being warm, responsive and striving towards meeting the children's physical as well as emotional needs. As a parenting style, authoritarian parenting is characterized by high behavior control demandingness and low parental responsiveness warmth. Typical traits of authoritarian parenting are: A value and belief system characterized by predictability and conservatism Adhering to a strict family hierarchy of authority and submissiveness Consistent upholding of rules and no parent child discussions The parents encourage suppression of emotions while at the same time being aggressive and having a short fuse.

A mental mindset that is characterized by rigidity and black and white world view. Harshness and insensitivity in social relations. Rules, order, punishment and strict discipline. Typical objections to the permissive parenting style is that it may lead to spoiled or bossy children, who act like this because they feel insecure as they have never learnt any boundaries and have never had any demands. Other research studies claim that children of permissive parents tend to engage more in problematic experimentative behavoir as teens and young adults.

As a parenting style, permissive parenting is characterized by low behavior control demandingness and high parental responsiveness warmth. Typical traits of permissive parenting are: Advocate of free development and encouragement of independent thinking!

Practicing a flat family hierarchy structure and relative role equality between parents and child. Meeting needs and being warm, responsive and caring. Do not favor overt control techniques and punishments but are more subtle and uses manipulative control measures such as bribery and praise. Tends to be evasive of conflicts, harmony orientated and encourages give and take discussions. Non-restrictive child discipline strategy. Apparently they did this so they could complete the picture of control and responsiveness.

Thus the uninvolved parenting style is thus characterized by low behavior control demandingness and low parental responsiveness warmth. Typical traits of uninvolved parenting are: Meeting physical needs but neglecting emotional needs. Being mentally distant and disengaged in their children and in their lives. Introduction to the Next 3 Parenting Styles!

Unfortunate Parenting Styles The next types of parenting styles represent what are perceived as unfortunate tendencies in modern parenting that have unhealthy, even damaging consequences for children. The interesting metaphor of helicopter parents effectively illustrates the main characteristics of these parents: In someway shape of form they always keep their children at very close range, constantly 'hovering' above them trying to make sure that no harm will come to them.

The overprotective strategies of helicopter parents are driven by fears 'losing'; A basic fear all parents have but which here is grown out of proportion, so to speak. Helicopter parents react on their fear by taking a very protective to their children which consequently means an aggressive stance towards the world.

Basically they distrust their children's ability to take care of themselves and they are afraid that if they don't keep a tight control with everything, harm will come to their children.

Helicopter parents are known to be constantly intervening on the parts of their kids and covering for their mistakes. They may even go as far as to completing basic tasks such as school work, job applications and phoning up their college kids in the morning to make sure they get up for class.

Helicopter parents are know for having a very hard time letting go of their children and being overengaged and overconcerned resulting in children who have become unfamiliar with the concept of risk and basic consequences of their actions. They pace their children to succeed and excel as they have come to identify with the accomplishments of their children.

In other words, their children are typically not perceived as individuals that are entitled to their agenda but as personal extensions of their own identity. Narcissistic parents thirst for external recognition and acceptance and unconsciously use their children as a means to live out dreams and fantasies they themselves never got to realize. The narcissistic parenting strategy is characterized by a plethora of various control mechanisms that are used to make their children pursue the goals of the parent.

Thus then children of narcissistic parents are left with very little space to discover their own interests and potentials. Thus narcissistic parenting, even helicopter parenting, may be labelled toxic as the parents' needs come before the child and ends up - to more or less extent - 'poisoning' the child. Toxic parenting range from neglecting children's needs to direct physical, emotional, and sometimes even sexual abuse.

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